“And I like large parties. They’re so intimate. At small parties there isn’t any privacy.”

When I read this quote from Jordan Baker I was (and am) puzzled as to the meaning. It seems like straightforward irony that large parties can be more intimate than small ones.

What does Jordan mean? Is this quote characterizing him? Or maybe revealing something about the nature of Gatsby's parties?

  • Is the quote wrong? I'm not sure how you are reading the implication "that large parties do not have any privacy". The quote seems to say the exact opposite of that. (ie Large parties are intimate and Small parties lack privacy.) Mar 1, 2023 at 15:57
  • @MichaelRichardson Sorry I should have edited it after I realized that I had confused myself. The quote is correct, I was merely confusing myself with it.
    – iceninja21
    Mar 1, 2023 at 19:00

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Jordan is remarking on the paradox that at a large party, it's possible to have a private conversation with someone without its being considered rude or unusual. The larger the party, the more people huddle in small groups of two, three, or four people, each group having its own separate conversation. So it's possible to talk with one or two people intimately without others thinking that it's anything out of the ordinary.

In a small party, say six or seven people, the conversation is general. It is not possible to talk privately or intimately with one or two other people, as others will notice, probably overhear, and certainly consider it odd. That is why Jordan says, "At small parties there isn’t any privacy.”

To give an example: I have met a total stranger during a large party, talked solely with that person for about half an hour, and concluded the conversation by arranging to meet him elsewhere later to continue our very interesting encounter. Because there were around 30 other people at the party, nobody particularly noticed that he and I were spending a fair bit of time in conversation together—everybody was in one little group or another. The fact that it was a large party meant that we could talk privately.

I could not have had such a conversation with said stranger if there were only a handful of other people at the party. The conversation would never have gotten intimate enough. Everybody would be participating in a single conversation.

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    It's possible she also likes the paradoxical effect. After all, large parties are more likely to be of people you aren't on intimate terms with, while small ones have your closest friends.
    – Mary
    Mar 2, 2023 at 23:24

The misuse of the word "intimate" shows Jordan's profound misunderstanding of the word, which highlights that she has no experience with intimacy as she doesnt have any loving relationships. This is because she is too busy trying to perfect her facade to try and live the American Dream in a society were consumption was glamorized and people tried to gain wealth and status above all else.

  • I see that you call it a 'misuse' and say that it's an insight into Jordan's state. Do you have any contextual clues you can use to back your theory up? The other answer seems more convincing, as currently written.
    – CDR
    Oct 31, 2023 at 12:35

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